When I Said I do

- “WOW” - Starting out a new life can be nerve-racking. You could be only a few minutes away from changing your life and still cannot figure out why you want to do so and if you are truly ready for the change. You then start to panic and sometimes your mind goes crazy trying to find last minute answers.

He wanted to flee from the grasp of the beast that is marriage but when he caught a gaze at his mother, the the one who assumed airs, he changed his foolish idea. He was wondering why his mother did not look at all drained from the entire exhausting task of organizing the eventful day.

The groom may may lament the fact that he has to face all the anxiety of the marriage ceremony. At this point he will be sensitive to what others do or say in front of him.

It was not that I was against the institution of marriage. It was not that I was not attracted to my wife-to-be, albeit ours was an arranged match. I did. I just felt as a young energetic thirty year old, I still wanted my freedom. Needless to say, I did not suffer from any Bridget Jones-like complex. My fiancée and I have discussed extensively and we agreed to remain unattached as long as possible. But Mother changed her mind with the all powerful warning, “Time and tide wait for no one”. Honestly, the truth be told, I was not a little apprehensive of major changes.

Sometimes I did ask myself why I gave in to Mother. But I knew I wanted her to be happy. And she would not be happy until she saw me married and settled down, preferably with a few grandchildren on the way.

Having a wedding require a lot of cautious and cash. Waiting the last minute to back off would be a complete waste. Even when the bits and pieces does not seem important to him, they are the one he ended up exhausting his energy on. He never imagined that shopping for wedding would parallel shopping for a whole decade. Even deciding about the details on the wedding cake alone took ages. He could not even comprehend the point of having a wedding cake with complicated designs and things never mind deciding for a mere topping. The photo-taking session which was supposed to be fun in any other events was extremely tiresome. In this whole wedding business, even a cake can get on his nerve.

His mother in reply to his question as he remembered, although nobody would notice the small things that they had put effort into, people tend to note it more in their absence.

He could no longer disagree with his mother.

What a woman will do to look fabulous on her big day he could not believe. He thought that she must be out of her mind when he saw the bill from the bridal boutique.

Could clothes actually cost so much? She would not be wearing it for long anyway!

The sound of the organ woke him from his thoughts.

The bride stood at the entrance of the church, everything he had thought about vanished from his mind. His heart started to beat high-speed.

A man is usually awed by the beauty of his bride. Only at that moment do they realize why the real reason why they had agreed to the whole thing.

Three steps away, she lifted her gaze to me. I saw the uncertainty and doubt in her shining eyes replaced by calm tranquility. That singular moment transformed my entire life. In a flash of understanding, I saw that she was giving her life, her trust, her love to me…. and how could I return any less?

The bride and the groom joins hand as signifying their eternal pledge.

As they turned to the priest, he secretly made a promise that he would never let her down. Although they may have their bad days, this would not shake him. This is because he now knows that the most important thing for them is to keep together and try to raise a family.

It was all as if he was dreaming. He knew that they loved each other and that is all they need.

”I do” was what he finally said, now with full confidence.

The word “wed” is derived from the ancient Greek word for “pledge.” And that’s exactly what a wedding is, no matter what country it takes place in, no matter what culture it’s part of. To wed is to pledge yourself to another. There are few acts we perform that are more pure or more beautiful than the act of marriage.

The pledge that lasts a lifetime.

Marriage is the most solemn pledge we make in our lifetimes. Traditionally the wedding pledge is made in front of family and friends who take special pains to stand up and witness our pledge. The wedding pledge is to be true and faithful and loving to another human being. To wed is both the most basic of all human pledges, and at the same time the most sublime.

Marriage carries with it the most solemn of promises, but it also embodies the potential for the greatest joy of human existence – the pure joy that flows from two hearts beating as one. There are few joys in life as deep or as long lasting as the joy that springs from the well of true love and a lasting marriage.

If we are lucky, we find our one, true soul mate.

We even have a term for it: soul mates. Two people, individual but at the same time inextricably a part of each other, so in-tune with the wants and the needs and the desires of the other that often words are not necessary. A mere glance between two lovers speaks volumes.

In almost all cultures the marriage ceremony ends with the bride and groom exchanging a kiss. The wedding kiss transcends cultures, it bridges tribes, it is one of the very few things that bind all of us together as human beings. From ancient times to the modern day, from the deepest jungles to the tallest skyscrapers, the wedding kiss symbolizes for all people everywhere the physical uniting of two souls.

Marriage is the strongest bond the world has ever known.

Marriage is a bringing together. It is a bringing together of two people, of two families, or two tribes, or two villages, or even two countries. Marriage is that powerful. Marriage is not something to be entered into lightly. Marriage is a pledge meant to last a lifetime.

Yet it is one of the unceasing marvels that we are able to express something as basic as love and marriage in so many wonderful and touching ways. Such is the wonder of human existence. The ceremonies and the traditions may be different, they may seem strange or outlandish or they may touch feelings in us that we never knew we had, but there is something about marriage that is instantly recognizable no matter what the language.

Love truly does make the world go around.

It has often been said that love transcends everything, that it knows no barriers. If you are looking for a unique or thoughtful way of showing your love, then perhaps you have come to the right place. Here you will find many ways to “tie the knot.” Perhaps you will discover a charming wedding tradition that you can make all your own. If you have decided to make the pledge, then be prepared to embrace love and marriage in all its splendors, and the world will be yours.

Set the course for a successful marriage with advice and tips for the wedding night, the honeymoon, anniversaries and other post-wedding events. Starting with the wedding night, find tips on making your first evening as a married couple unforgettable. Want help planning the honeymoon? Get advice on choosing a trip that suits you both. When you return, find out what lifestyle adjustments to anticipate before the newlywed buzz wears off.

Introduction

Instructions

Things You’ll Need

• Patience
• Self Awareness
• Time

Steps

If you’re planning a wedding, one purchase you’ll probably soon be making is on wedding rings for the bride and groom. They’re the first thing other women ask to see and it makes people excited just to see it. Most men aren’t as excited about rings because they are usually not impressed with a rock that they believe costs too much. Women generally believe that the wedding ring represents the beginning of a new family with kids and the next chapter in life. In the beginning, most men do not understand the purpose or importance of the wedding bands. It doesn’t really matter to them until the new bride takes it off!

In all seriousness, the wedding rings are a symbol of love and dedication to each other. It means that two people love each other so much that they have pledged to stay together no matter what happens - through sickness and in health, through richer or poorer - you know how the rest goes. Even though there will be times when love may seem less important to a couple when they begin to experience other hurdles in life, just one glance at their ring finger should let them know that they no longer have to jump these hurdles alone.

Implications of Wedding Rings

If you have already started shopping for the wedding rings, then it shouldn’t come as a shock to you that these small symbols of love could represent a substantial portion of your wedding budget. A ring can cost anywhere from a few hundred dollars to thousands. But it doesn’t mean that a man loves a woman any more or less because of the ring’s size or cost. The largest cost of a wedding ring isn’t necessarily the money, but instead, living up to those things that the diamonds and gold in the ring represent. These may seem like romantic and emotional words, but they hold more truth than a million dollar ring. This can be one of the reasons why divorces are generally so messy.

Wedding rings are often purchased only because they are a part of the wedding ceremony without the couple fully understanding the meaning behind them. More couples would stay married if they knew exactly what they were saying to each other when they exchanged the wedding rings. The wedding ring is meant to create a bond that is stronger than crazy glue. It’s only after a couple’s marriage has been tested a number of times with different types of problems, that it is discovered whether or not the symbolism that the ring represents was truly understood. If the couple is still together after surviving these tests, it means that the two people who have become one are stronger together than the two parts that they once were.

Every young couple who are planning to be married should understand the real value and potential costs of wearing the ring. The couple should not allow others to dictate to them, but instead, should work together toward a solution to any problem that arises. If this can be accomplished with success, the ring will always be valued for what it stands for and not as a material item that costed “X” amount of dollars.

Are you in love? If you are asking yourself this question, it’s obviously a possibility. If you want to know for sure, take a glance at the following checklist to see how many of the following love signs you are seeing.

You get butterflies in your stomach. When people first starting dating, you may hear them say they have butterflies in their stomach. The truth is that what they are experiencing is the jitters because, like the creatures themselves, butterflies take some time to develop. Even after you’ve dated someone for a long time and the jitters stop, the butterflies are still there. It’s when they are no longer there that it’s time to worry, but you know you’re in love whenever they’re around.

When you think about the future, you envision him/her in it. If someone asked you how you see your life in 5 or 10 years from now? What’s the first thought that comes into your mind and, more importantly, who is there with you? If you foresee a future with your current partner, you may be in love.

After a difficult day, he/she makes everything seem better. Whether you’ve had a difficult day at work or just feel awful for whatever reason, your love interest should be able to make you forget about everything. If all of the bad goes right out the window when you’re together, take comfort in knowing that you’re in love.

You think of your sweetheart

’s needs before your own. Selflessness is one of the single best examples of love because it shows that you are putting the other person first. This doesn’t mean that you forget about everything that’s important to you, but it does mean that you keep your partner’s interests at heart and always do what you can to make them happy.

Several days apart feel like an eternity. Do you miss your mate when work gets in the way or a vacation has the two of you temporarily apart? If you can’t wait to get back just to hear their voice, see their smile or find out what he/she is doing, you’re in love.

When you think of him/her or say their name, you can’t stop smiling. Ok, this is the true test of love. How many times have you watched as people talk about their significant other and a smile suddenly crosses their face? When this happens, what do you think? It’s obvious, they are in love with their mate and if you cannot stop smiling when speaking about your sweetheart, you too are in love.

You feel loved when you are together. What makes us fall in love with someone? Is it their kind heart, honesty or because we just feel unexplainably happy when together? One of the most attractive characteristics about someone is their ability to make us feel loved, cherished and appreciated. If you feel all of this when you are with your mate, love is definitely in the air.